I was listening to the philosopher Stefan Molyneux one day when he said, “Most philosophy that you hear is like people staring at helium balloons and saying, ‘Well, I guess everything falls up!’”
Once you’ve reached any level of enlightenment, you quickly realize how true that is. Just try browsing Facebook, Pinterest, Instagram, or any of a litany of social networks available today and you’ll quickly see an absolute s#!tload of bad philosophy getting posted and reposted over and over again.
I’ll provide just this one example. Hopefully it will help you open your mind and look deeper than the surface of these overly-simplistic views of the world.
Take a good hard look at the image on the left. Okay… not that hard.
It’s true that you cannot love others if you don’t love yourself. But it’s also true that you cannot love yourself if you do not love others. Seems like a paradox, doesn’t it?
How can a person love themselves when they treat others with a lack of love? Who would love a person like that?
Being full of love requires practice. Not loving yourself often results from focusing on one’s self too much, and so the admonition to love oneself first can be taken wrongly and result in the deception that focusing on myself will somehow solve my problems. It’s not true. It’s only when you place the needs of others above your own that you show love and will, as such, grow to love yourself — because you are becoming a person worthy of love.
Love is something that you have or don’t have. If you don’t have it, you’ll neither love yourself nor others. If you have it, you will love others as well as yourself.
Practice showing love for others by giving the needs of others priority above your own. With time, you will learn to love which will lead to being loved — by others as well as yourself.